Most people mix up deal breakers, red flags, and preferences. Not knowing what your must-haves and deal breakers are can keep you spinning and feeling stuck

Use this simple filter to protect your energy and date with clarity. Learn how to say “this is not for me” so you can move on to finding what is.

Wondering which dating app is best?

Here’s the truth: the app isn’t what matters most. It’s learning how to be your own best matchmaker, no matter which platform you use.

Read on to learn how to show up with clarity and discernment and whether I think you should pay for dating apps in the process.

Do you find yourself hoping he’ll change? Wishing he’d dress better, text more, or be less messy? You’re not alone, but you are wasting your time. This week’s post is a must-read if you’ve ever dated a man for his potential.

Spoiler: If you don’t actually like him, he is not the one for you!

What if you stopped swiping aimlessly and started dating strategically?

In this post, I’m sharing how to apply real-world strategic planning tools (yes, like the ones used in boardrooms and business meetings) to your dating life. Whether you're dating for the first time in a while or just tired of going in circles, this 4-Step Process will help you create a clear vision, identify what’s getting in your way, and take bold action toward the kind of love you actually want.

Are you in a “relationship” with someone you’re not actually dating? Here’s how to spot a pseudo-relationship that’s keeping you stuck, and what to do about it.

Are you dating with your future in mind? If you’re looking for a long-term partner, you need someone with more than just chemistry and kindness. Read on to learn what it really means to date for the role you want someone to have if you’re looking for a LTR and not just Friday night fun.

Think setting boundaries means telling someone what they can or can’t do? Think again. Most women are doing boundaries all wrong - leaving them frustrated, confused, and stuck in relationships that don’t feel good. In this post, I’m breaking down what healthy dating boundaries actually look like, why they matter, and how to set - and keep - boundaries that work for you.

Tired of dating burnout and ghosting? You’re not alone and you’re not powerless. In this post, I’m breaking down one of the biggest myths about modern dating and showing you how to take back control of your dating life. If you're ready to stop spiraling and start dating with intention, this is where it begins.

Love bombing might feel like romance, but when someone comes on strong from the start—showering you with compliments, constant texts, and talk of the future—it’s often a red flag, not a fairy tale. In this post, I’ll show you how to recognize the signs and stop mistaking flattery for real connection. Bottom line: If someone you just met is piling on affection, that is your first sign you’ve got a love bomber coming in hot.

Do you get nervous before a first date? You are not alone. So many women were taught that having a man who likes you is the ultimate goal—which makes every date feel like a high-stakes performance. But here's the truth: men are just people, and a first date is just a conversation. Learn how to lower the pressure, stop performing, and start showing with confidence and not weird vibes energy.

Have you ever been in a dating situation that felt off but you couldn’t quite name why?
That was me recently. And the answer, I realized, was this: I was out of integrity with myself.
Not wrong. Just misaligned.
Dating with integrity isn’t just about being honest—it’s about being whole. In this post, I’m sharing how to recognize when your dating choices are out of alignment with your values, and how to course-correct when something feels off.

Think trust is something someone “earns” or “gives” you? Think again. In this post, I’ll show you why trust isn’t a feeling you get—it’s a decision you make based on the evidence in front of you.

Do you have to talk on the phone before a first date? Some say yes. Others (hi, it’s me) would rather skip it. In this post, I share a cringeworthy date story, what I’ve learned about meeting in person, and why you get to decide what works for you—phone call, FaceTime, or just keeping it short and sweet in person.

You don’t have to know everything after one date. If you’re not getting a clear “yes” or “no” right away, give yourself permission to stay curious. In this post, I break down how to stop pressuring yourself to have all the answers by the second drink.

Why do we get so excited so fast with someone we’ve just met—and why does it hurt so much when it doesn’t go anywhere? In this post, I break down what feeling that ‘spark’ really is, why it might be keeping you stuck, and how to slow down without losing momentum in dating.

Why do we get so excited so fast with someone we’ve just met—and why does it hurt so much when it doesn’t go anywhere? In this post, I break down what feeling that ‘spark’ really is, why it might be keeping you stuck, and how to slow down without losing momentum in dating.

You’re allowed to decide you’re not interested—after several dates, a few texts, or even just a feeling. Here I’ll show you exactly how to say “no thanks” in dating without guilt, overexplaining, or emotional labor. You don’t need to soften the truth—you just need to be honest and clear.

It’s easy to get excited about someone new—you’ve been chatting for a week or two, he seems nice, and you catch yourself telling friends, “Wish me luck!” But here’s why I think that’s a problem: when you assign hopeful potential too early, you set yourself up for unnecessary disappointment. In this post, I’ll share why dating well isn’t about luck—it’s about trusting yourself, going slow, leading with intention in your dating life.

If you’re not sure what you're looking for, it’s no wonder dating feels frustrating and confusing. It’s like shopping without a list—you end up with a bunch of ingredients and no genuine meals. Read on to learn how getting honest about what you're looking for in a partner and a relationship will help you stop dating in circles and start making meaningful connections.

Women are often taught to give people the benefit of the doubt, especially in dating—but that mindset can cost you time, energy, and emotional peace. When someone is inconsistent, distant, or showing signs that they’re not all in, it’s time to stop making excuses. Pay attention to how they show up and trust yourself to walk away if things aren’t moving in the direction you want. Read on for more!