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What most women get wrong about boundaries in dating
Think setting boundaries means telling someone what they can or can’t do? Think again. Most women are doing boundaries all wrong - leaving them frustrated, confused, and stuck in relationships that don’t feel good. In this post, I’m breaking down what healthy dating boundaries actually look like, why they matter, and how to set - and keep - boundaries that work for you.
You have more control over your dating life than you think
Tired of dating burnout and ghosting? You’re not alone and you’re not powerless. In this post, I’m breaking down one of the biggest myths about modern dating and showing you how to take back control of your dating life. If you're ready to stop spiraling and start dating with intention, this is where it begins.
How to spot (and stop) a love bomber
Love bombing might feel like romance, but when someone comes on strong from the start—showering you with compliments, constant texts, and talk of the future—it’s often a red flag, not a fairy tale. In this post, I’ll show you how to recognize the signs and stop mistaking flattery for real connection. Bottom line: If someone you just met is piling on affection, that is your first sign you’ve got a love bomber coming in hot.
Do first dates make you nervous? My trick to not make it weird.
Do you get nervous before a first date? You are not alone. So many women were taught that having a man who likes you is the ultimate goal—which makes every date feel like a high-stakes performance. But here's the truth: men are just people, and a first date is just a conversation. Learn how to lower the pressure, stop performing, and start showing with confidence and not weird vibes energy.
Are you dating in integrity with your values?
Have you ever been in a dating situation that felt off but you couldn’t quite name why?
That was me recently. And the answer, I realized, was this: I was out of integrity with myself.
Not wrong. Just misaligned.
Dating with integrity isn’t just about being honest—it’s about being whole. In this post, I’m sharing how to recognize when your dating choices are out of alignment with your values, and how to course-correct when something feels off.
How to know if you can trust someone
Think trust is something someone “earns” or “gives” you? Think again. In this post, I’ll show you why trust isn’t a feeling you get—it’s a decision you make based on the evidence in front of you.
Should you always talk on the phone before meeting?
Do you have to talk on the phone before a first date? Some say yes. Others (hi, it’s me) would rather skip it. In this post, I share a cringeworthy date story, what I’ve learned about meeting in person, and why you get to decide what works for you—phone call, FaceTime, or just keeping it short and sweet in person.
How many dates should you go on before you decide if you like them?
You don’t have to know everything after one date. If you’re not getting a clear “yes” or “no” right away, give yourself permission to stay curious. In this post, I break down how to stop pressuring yourself to have all the answers by the second drink.
It’s up to you to take control of your dating life
Why do we get so excited so fast with someone we’ve just met—and why does it hurt so much when it doesn’t go anywhere? In this post, I break down what feeling that ‘spark’ really is, why it might be keeping you stuck, and how to slow down without losing momentum in dating.
Why chasing that ‘spark’ may be holding you back from love
Why do we get so excited so fast with someone we’ve just met—and why does it hurt so much when it doesn’t go anywhere? In this post, I break down what feeling that ‘spark’ really is, why it might be keeping you stuck, and how to slow down without losing momentum in dating.
How to tell someone you’re not interested without feeling guilty
You’re allowed to decide you’re not interested—after several dates, a few texts, or even just a feeling. Here I’ll show you exactly how to say “no thanks” in dating without guilt, overexplaining, or emotional labor. You don’t need to soften the truth—you just need to be honest and clear.
Stop saying “Wish me luck!” in dating
It’s easy to get excited about someone new—you’ve been chatting for a week or two, he seems nice, and you catch yourself telling friends, “Wish me luck!” But here’s why I think that’s a problem: when you assign hopeful potential too early, you set yourself up for unnecessary disappointment. In this post, I’ll share why dating well isn’t about luck—it’s about trusting yourself, going slow, leading with intention in your dating life.
You won’t find it if you don’t know what you’re looking for
If you’re not sure what you're looking for, it’s no wonder dating feels frustrating and confusing. It’s like shopping without a list—you end up with a bunch of ingredients and no genuine meals. Read on to learn how getting honest about what you're looking for in a partner and a relationship will help you stop dating in circles and start making meaningful connections.
Stop giving them the benefit of the doubt in dating
Women are often taught to give people the benefit of the doubt, especially in dating—but that mindset can cost you time, energy, and emotional peace. When someone is inconsistent, distant, or showing signs that they’re not all in, it’s time to stop making excuses. Pay attention to how they show up and trust yourself to walk away if things aren’t moving in the direction you want. Read on for more!
You can’t predict the future in dating
Dating can stir up all kinds of “what if” questions—What if the age gap becomes a problem? What if I never fit into his life with his kids? What if he starts drinking again?
The truth is: you don’t know, and you can’t know. Relationships don’t come with guarantees. Read on to learn how to stop overanalyzing the future and start making empowered dating decisions right now.
Nine tips for dating success as a single mom
Dating as a single mom can feel like an impossible puzzle—between packed schedules, childcare logistics, and sheer exhaustion, it’s hard to even think about putting yourself out there. But it is possible. In this post, I’m sharing 9 real-world tips to help you date on your time, your terms, and without the guilt, overwhelm, or burnout. Because you’re a woman, not just a mom.
Why you shouldn’t spend hours on the phone before meeting
Spending hours on the phone before meeting someone might feel like a great way to build a connection—but in reality, you’re just creating an illusion of intimacy. You don’t know this person yet, and long conversations can lead to filling in the gaps with who you want them to be. Here’s what to do instead.
Are you seeing who they are or who you want them to be?
When dating, it’s easy to fill in the gaps with who you want someone to be instead of seeing them for who they actually are. You ask a few questions, hear what you like, and suddenly your mind starts building a whole story about them. But here’s the truth: you can’t know who someone truly is until they show you. Here’s what to do instead.
The only insurance against bad dates is you
Dating can feel like a gamble, and it’s tempting to look for ways to guarantee a good outcome. But here’s the truth—there’s no insurance for dating. No amount of checklists, social media polls, or background details will predict whether someone is a great match. Some things you just can’t know until you know them. The real key? Trusting yourself to recognize what works, what doesn’t, and adjusting as you go.
Ghosting happens-Here’s what to do when it happens to you
If you've been ghosted, I know how frustrating it can be. The silence, the confusion, the endless Why?!—but here’s the truth: ghosting is not about you. Instead of wasting energy wondering what went wrong, I’ll show you how to reframe ghosting so you can keep move forward with confidence on your dating journey.