Are you dating in integrity with your values?

This week I am going deeper and talking about something that is important to me personally: integrity.

Not just the “being a good person” kind of integrity. I mean the kind that comes from being in alignment with yourself. Wholeness. Unity. A feeling of being sound and settled in your decisions.

Because integrity isn’t just about morality—it’s also about integration. Feeling like your head and your heart are in the same place. Like your actions are lining up with your values.

And sometimes in dating… they don’t.

I found myself in this exact situation recently. Something felt off, but I couldn’t quite name it at first. Nothing dramatic happened. Nothing bad. But the dynamic didn’t sit right in my body. And when I finally sat with it, I realized what was bothering me: 

 I was out of integrity with myself.

Not in a “I did something wrong” kind of way.

But more like I was ignoring what I value in pursuit of something that wasn’t actually aligned.

That’s when I knew: this wasn’t for me.

So, I want to ask you:

🧭 Are you dating in integrity with what you value?

• Are you showing up for the kind of relationship you say you want?

• Or are you chasing someone who isn’t chasing you back?

• Are you honoring your values?

• Or are you tolerating things that make you feel unsettled, uncertain, or small?

Because here’s the truth: 

👷🏻‍♀️You can’t create real connection when you're disconnected from yourself in the process. 

If you value honesty, mutual effort, clear communication, and kindness then those are the qualities that should guide you through the dating process.

You can’t say “I want a real relationship” and keep saying yes to people who breadcrumb, disappear, or act like they’re doing you a favor just by showing up.

You deserve a relationship with someone who is mutually invested and connected.

And you deserve to feel like you’re moving through the dating process with self-respect and clarity—not confusion and self-doubt.

So, if something feels off, pause and ask yourself:

“Am I dating in integrity with who I am and what I want?”

If not—good news: you can always come back to yourself. 💞

📡 Do you need help identifying your values or getting back in alignment with them? If you’ve been ignoring your own signals, staying too long, or saying yes when you really mean no—let’s talk.

We’ll figure what you want, where you’ve been compromising, and how to realign your dating decisions so they reflect the you you want to be. 

Because dating isn’t just about finding someone else—it’s about staying true to yourself in the process. 💛

Let’s date better together!