Do first dates make you nervous? My trick to not make it weird.

Do you get nervous about going on a first date? 
 

Somewhere along the way, a lot of women were taught that getting a man’s attention is the ultimate prize.

So, it makes sense that first dates can feel a little high stakes.

We start thinking we have to dress just right. 

Say the clever things. 

Be cute but not try too hard. 

Be chill but still fun. 

Ask questions. 

Laugh at his jokes.

Make sure he likes us.

Because…what if he doesn’t like us?!

What if he doesn't like you?! 

What are you truly worried about? 

Usually, the fear is that if he doesn't like you, then no one will like you. 

So, you want him to like you. 

And then you get nervous.

But here’s the thing:

He’s just a person.

He’s not some mystery species. 👽

And this is just a conversation. 

And you have conversations all the time:

At school drop-off. 

At the coffee shop. 

On the sidelines. 

At the doctor's office.

So why does this one feel different?

Because many of us were raised to believe that male approval = personal value.

And when we internalize that, it’s no wonder it all feels so intense.

But let me say this loud and clear:

Men are not magical, mysterious creatures. 🪄

They are not gatekeepers of your worth.

They are people. 

Just like you and me.

When I stopped putting men on a pedestal, my whole dating experience changed.

I wasn’t anxious anymore. 

I didn’t feel the need to ‘perform.’

I didn’t wait to be chosen.

I just showed up as myself. 

And I decided if I liked them, and didn't worry too much about whether they liked me. 

Because I like me. 

And if someone else doesn't, that is okay.

Not everyone is meant to be a fit for you. 
 

Dating is just a process of finding out who is, who isn't, and who you might want to spend a little more time with. That's it.

It's not an audition.

It’s not a job interview.

It’s not a test of your worthiness.

It’s just a conversation. 

So next time you feel yourself getting nervous before a date?

Take a breath and remind yourself: “I can talk to anyone for an hour. This is just a conversation, not a lifetime commitment."

Simple!

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Does going on dates still feel like you're prepping for a meeting with a mysterious alien life form? 👾

If dating feels like pressure, performance, or panic, you might be working way too hard to be liked… and forgetting that this is just a meeting with another human.

He's just a dude, and it's just a vibe check.

And you get to be the one doing the checking! ✅

Book a FREE call with me and we'll figure out how to make dating feel way less weird. 

You got this! 💕