You won’t find it if you don’t know what you’re looking for

Here’s something I say to clients all the time: 

You have to know what you’re looking for.
In a partner.
In a relationship.
In the life you want to build.

Because if you’re saying, “I’m not really sure what I’m looking for…”
Then I hate to break it to you—you’re probably not going to find it.

Think of it like marketing:

Trader Joe’s knows exactly who they’re talking to. Their message, their vibe, their pricing—it’s all aimed at a very specific audience. They’re not trying to attract the same people as Big Box Food 4 Less.

That’s not a judgment. It’s just clarity.

And dating is no different.

If your vibe says, “anything goes,” then anyone will show up. But when you say: 👉 “This is who I am. This is what I value. This is what I’m looking for.” You start calling in people who actually align with that.

Otherwise? You’re just trying everyone on for size:

Religious or not?
Conservative or liberal?
City guy or country guy?
Life of the party or cozy night in?

If you don’t know what you want, you’ll waste time dating to find out—when you could be dating with purpose and focus instead. 

To date with purpose, you need to:

✅ Know the kind of person you’re looking for (values, goals, energy).
✅ Know the kind of relationship you want (casual, committed, long-term, etc.).
✅ Say it out loud. Claim it. Own it.

When you do, you stop attracting what’s not for you and start calling in the people who are. 

Want help getting clear on what you're looking for so you can date with intention and not frustration?

👉 Schedule a FREE Dating Breakthrough Call with me here. We’ll figure out what you like, what's unsure, and what kind of connection actually fits you and your life right now. 

You are the blueprint for your Happily Ever After. You just have to tell the world what that is!

Happy Dating!