How to spot (and stop) a love bomber
Let’s talk about love bombing. 💣
You know what I’m talking about:
The guy who says he’s never felt this way before… on date two.
The one who texts all day, every day, with heart emojis and pet names before you even know his last name.
The one who tells you you’re “the one” when he doesn’t even know your favorite food.
I often see women sharing stories about love bombers who are shocked and heartbroken when he suddenly ghosts or is no longer interested.
But here’s the thing:
If a man is showering you with attention, flattery, or declarations of love right away... it’s not romantic. It’s a red flag. 🚩
(Actually, maybe a bunch of red flags. 🚩🚩)
👉 He doesn’t love you. He doesn’t even know you.
And no, this isn’t about blaming you.
It’s about equipping you.
Because love bombing only works when we choose to believe the words coming at us before there’s been any time to deserve them.
Words don’t mean anything until there’s enough consistency and context to back them up.
When someone pours on that much attention that early on, it’s often more about their needs, not yours.
Here’s how you know:
☑️ He’s saying things like “you’re everything I’ve ever wanted” after one or two dates.
☑️ He’s calling or texting constantly and gets weird if you don’t respond right away.
☑️ He’s already talking about your future together (vacations, moving in, marriage) before you’ve even had a real disagreement.
☑️ He uses intense terms of affection early like "baby,” “sweetheart,” and “soulmate” when he actually barely knows you.
☑️ He wants to see you all the time, right away and might get pushy if you say no.
☑️ He showers you with compliments, but they’re vague or generic (“You’re so perfect,” “You’re not like other women”).
☑️ You feel flattered but also pressured.
☑️ Your gut says, “This is too much,” even while your head is trying to rationalize it.
☑️ It escalates fast and doesn’t slow down (until it crashes)
☑️ It feels overwhelming, not just exciting.
If you find yourself thinking, “Maybe he’s just super into me,” try this instead:
Tell him to slow his roll.
If he respects you, he will.
If he doesn’t?
That’s not romance.
That’s manipulation. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Bottom line:
No one who just met you should be that into you, that fast.
If they are, that is a good sign you've got a love bomb coming in hot and it's time to give yourself some space.
You don’t need to wait around for the crash.
You don’t need to prove you're “worth it.”
You don’t need to explain why this feels off.
And remember: You don’t owe anyone the benefit of the doubt when your gut is screaming that it’s too much, too soon.
📣 Do you want to stop falling for the fast talkers and love bombers?
If you keep attracting fast talkers, love bombers, or emotionally intense men who fizzle out fast, let’s fix that.
Schedule a FREE call with me and we can chat about how to recognize love bombing for what it is, how to stop mistaking flattery for real connection, and how to start dating in a way that actually protects your heart and your peace.
Because love isn’t something you fall for.
It’s something you build slowly, one step at a time. 🛠
You got this.💕
