Do you find yourself hoping he’ll change? Wishing he’d dress better, text more, or be less messy? You’re not alone, but you are wasting your time. This week’s post is a must-read if you’ve ever dated a man for his potential.

Spoiler: If you don’t actually like him, he is not the one for you!

Love bombing might feel like romance, but when someone comes on strong from the start—showering you with compliments, constant texts, and talk of the future—it’s often a red flag, not a fairy tale. In this post, I’ll show you how to recognize the signs and stop mistaking flattery for real connection. Bottom line: If someone you just met is piling on affection, that is your first sign you’ve got a love bomber coming in hot.