Why do we get so excited so fast with someone we’ve just met—and why does it hurt so much when it doesn’t go anywhere? In this post, I break down what feeling that ‘spark’ really is, why it might be keeping you stuck, and how to slow down without losing momentum in dating.

You’re allowed to decide you’re not interested—after several dates, a few texts, or even just a feeling. Here I’ll show you exactly how to say “no thanks” in dating without guilt, overexplaining, or emotional labor. You don’t need to soften the truth—you just need to be honest and clear.

I have been married and divorced. I've done a lot of dating. And one of the themes I notice when I look back on all of that is an exorbitant amount of anxiety related to my relationships. Or lack of relationships. Or situationships. And in the last few years (since I was introduced to coaching), my anxiety about my relationships with other people has diminished tremendously and confidence in and comfort with myself has increased tenfold. I no longer get anxious if I am waiting for a text from someone I am interested in. If I have a question about the status of a relationship, I ask the person rather than conjecturing with nine of my friends. My relationship with my ex is a thousand times better than it ever was. But he didn't change. I changed. And I want this for you!