How to know if you can trust someone

Let’s talk about trust.

I think a lot of people misunderstand what trust actually is.

I hear this all the time:

   “I just don’t know if I can trust him.”
   “I was hurt before—I’m not sure I’ll be able to trust again.”
   “I’m waiting to see if I feel trust.”

But here’s the thing:

Trust isn’t a feeling you get from someone.
It’s a decision you make about someone.

Read that again.

Let’s break that down:

To trust means:
To believe in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone.

Trust isn't something someone “gives” you.
It's not a vibe they “emit.”
It’s something you choose—based on evidence of reliability, truth telling and ability of someone to do what they say they are going to do. 

This is how you decide to trust someone.
 

So, if you’re waiting to “feel” trust...
If you’re waiting for someone to magically make you trust them...
You’re going to stay stuck.

Trust is built on data.

It’s an internal decision:

👉 “Based on what I’ve seen and experienced, I choose to trust them (or not)."

You’re not powerless.

✅ You don’t have to wait for trust to appear out of thin air.
✅ You don’t have to wonder if you “should” trust someone.
✅ You get to decide if someone's behavior is consistent enough, safe enough, aligned enough for you to trust them.
✅ You can trust someone until they give you a reason not to.
✅ Or—you can wait to gather more data before making that decision.
  
No drama. No shame. No confusion required.

✨ Bottom line: 

Trust isn’t something people give you. 

It's not something they “have to prove” to you. 

It’s something you choose to have—or not—based on the history of how they show up for you and others. 

🙋‍♀️ Do you need help learning how to trust yourself to decide if you should trust someone else? 👇

If you’ve been stuck second-guessing, overthinking, or waiting for a “feeling” to show up—let’s talk. 

We’ll walk through how to stop outsourcing trust, how to gather real data that matters, and how to trust yourself to decide when (and if!) to trust another person.

Because trust starts with YOU. And that’s a good thing. ❤️

☎️ Schedule a FREE call with me here. 

Here’s to better dating for better relationships!