You have more control over your dating life than you think
The Biggest Lie About Dating
Here’s one of the biggest lies we’ve been told about dating:
"It’s a numbers game. You just have to put yourself out there and hope for the best."
Ummm… just no.
That’s a recipe for anxiety, not connection.
That’s how you end up burnt out, second-guessing yourself, and dating men who never deserved your time in the first place.
I spent years believing this lie.
Swiping endlessly, saying yes to dates that felt wrong from the start, staying in conversations that were uninspiring, and keeping connections that were going nowhere because "you never know!"
(Spoiler alert: You do know. You always know.)
Here’s the Truth: You Have More Control Than You Think
It is a numbers game, but only in the number of times you are willing to say ‘no’ on the way to your ‘yes.’
Here’s what I have learned: You have WAY more control over your dating experience than you think.
You get to choose:
Who you give your number to. Are you being selective or giving it out just to be polite?
Who you keep chatting with. Are you engaging with people who barely engage back?
Who you meet in person. Are you meeting people with potential or just avoiding another Friday night alone?
How long you stay. If they’re talking at you all night, do you keep smiling or excuse yourself early?
Who gets a second date. Do you say no when it’s a no, and yes only when there might be potential?
What you’re comfortable with. Do you speak up when someone crosses a line or acts inappropriately?
How fast things move. Are you clear about your expectations around pace and intimacy or just going along with whatever he wants?
What behavior you accept. Are you tolerating inconsistent effort, excuses, or values that don’t align with yours?
When you walk away. Do you leave when it’s not working or drag it out, hoping something changes?
ALL of these things (and so much more) are in your control!
And when you feel in control of your dating life dating gets a lot easier and a lot less stressful.
Why Most Women Feel Stuck in Dating
The women who feel frustrated in dating are usually the ones who've given all their power away.
👉 They're constantly reacting to someone else instead of choosing what is right for them.
👉 Hoping instead of deciding.
👉 Following someone else's energy instead of deciding, “This is not for me.”
In your last few dating experiences, were you just hoping for the best and following someone else’s lead? Or were you stepping up and saying what you want with honesty and intention?
What It Looks Like to Take Back Control
When you realize you're the CEO of your dating life? 📈 Everything changes.
You’ll stop:
Entertaining men who can't hold a conversation.
Giving up your Saturday night to someone who waited until the last minute to ask you out.
Checking your phone wondering if you'll hear from him.
Gaslighting yourself when something feels off.
This isn't about being picky for the sake of being picky.
It's about being selective because your time and energy are valuable.
It is up to you to take control of your dating life. Not the guy you met on Tinder. Not the guy you've been crushing on for a while. You.
Ready to Start Dating Differently?
If you’re tired of hoping and ready to start deciding, you’re ready for what I teach.
💓 I help women take control of their dating lives.
💓 To date with intention instead of anxiety.
💓 To stop settling and start selecting.
If that sounds like what you need, I’d love to talk.
You can book a free call with me here and see if working together makes sense. No pressure, no sales pitch. Just a real conversation about where you are and where you want to go.
Because you deserve to feel good about dating.
And I can show you how.
