Most people mix up deal breakers, red flags, and preferences. Not knowing what your must-haves and deal breakers are can keep you spinning and feeling stuck

Use this simple filter to protect your energy and date with clarity. Learn how to say “this is not for me” so you can move on to finding what is.

Wondering which dating app is best?

Here’s the truth: the app isn’t what matters most. It’s learning how to be your own best matchmaker, no matter which platform you use.

Read on to learn how to show up with clarity and discernment and whether I think you should pay for dating apps in the process.

Do you find yourself hoping he’ll change? Wishing he’d dress better, text more, or be less messy? You’re not alone, but you are wasting your time. This week’s post is a must-read if you’ve ever dated a man for his potential.

Spoiler: If you don’t actually like him, he is not the one for you!

Love bombing might feel like romance, but when someone comes on strong from the start—showering you with compliments, constant texts, and talk of the future—it’s often a red flag, not a fairy tale. In this post, I’ll show you how to recognize the signs and stop mistaking flattery for real connection. Bottom line: If someone you just met is piling on affection, that is your first sign you’ve got a love bomber coming in hot.

Do you get nervous before a first date? You are not alone. So many women were taught that having a man who likes you is the ultimate goal—which makes every date feel like a high-stakes performance. But here's the truth: men are just people, and a first date is just a conversation. Learn how to lower the pressure, stop performing, and start showing with confidence and not weird vibes energy.

Have you ever been in a dating situation that felt off but you couldn’t quite name why?
That was me recently. And the answer, I realized, was this: I was out of integrity with myself.
Not wrong. Just misaligned.
Dating with integrity isn’t just about being honest—it’s about being whole. In this post, I’m sharing how to recognize when your dating choices are out of alignment with your values, and how to course-correct when something feels off.

Think trust is something someone “earns” or “gives” you? Think again. In this post, I’ll show you why trust isn’t a feeling you get—it’s a decision you make based on the evidence in front of you.

Do you have to talk on the phone before a first date? Some say yes. Others (hi, it’s me) would rather skip it. In this post, I share a cringeworthy date story, what I’ve learned about meeting in person, and why you get to decide what works for you—phone call, FaceTime, or just keeping it short and sweet in person.

Dating can feel like a gamble, and it’s tempting to look for ways to guarantee a good outcome. But here’s the truth—there’s no insurance for dating. No amount of checklists, social media polls, or background details will predict whether someone is a great match. Some things you just can’t know until you know them. The real key? Trusting yourself to recognize what works, what doesn’t, and adjusting as you go.

If you've been ghosted, I know how frustrating it can be. The silence, the confusion, the endless Why?!—but here’s the truth: ghosting is not about you. Instead of wasting energy wondering what went wrong, I’ll show you how to reframe ghosting so you can keep move forward with confidence on your dating journey.