Most people mix up deal breakers, red flags, and preferences. Not knowing what your must-haves and deal breakers are can keep you spinning and feeling stuck

Use this simple filter to protect your energy and date with clarity. Learn how to say “this is not for me” so you can move on to finding what is.

Do you find yourself hoping he’ll change? Wishing he’d dress better, text more, or be less messy? You’re not alone, but you are wasting your time. This week’s post is a must-read if you’ve ever dated a man for his potential.

Spoiler: If you don’t actually like him, he is not the one for you!

Love bombing might feel like romance, but when someone comes on strong from the start—showering you with compliments, constant texts, and talk of the future—it’s often a red flag, not a fairy tale. In this post, I’ll show you how to recognize the signs and stop mistaking flattery for real connection. Bottom line: If someone you just met is piling on affection, that is your first sign you’ve got a love bomber coming in hot.

Do you have to talk on the phone before a first date? Some say yes. Others (hi, it’s me) would rather skip it. In this post, I share a cringeworthy date story, what I’ve learned about meeting in person, and why you get to decide what works for you—phone call, FaceTime, or just keeping it short and sweet in person.

You don’t have to know everything after one date. If you’re not getting a clear “yes” or “no” right away, give yourself permission to stay curious. In this post, I break down how to stop pressuring yourself to have all the answers by the second drink.

Why do we get so excited so fast with someone we’ve just met—and why does it hurt so much when it doesn’t go anywhere? In this post, I break down what feeling that ‘spark’ really is, why it might be keeping you stuck, and how to slow down without losing momentum in dating.

Spending hours on the phone before meeting someone might feel like a great way to build a connection—but in reality, you’re just creating an illusion of intimacy. You don’t know this person yet, and long conversations can lead to filling in the gaps with who you want them to be. Here’s what to do instead.