Do you get nervous before a first date? You are not alone. So many women were taught that having a man who likes you is the ultimate goal—which makes every date feel like a high-stakes performance. But here's the truth: men are just people, and a first date is just a conversation. Learn how to lower the pressure, stop performing, and start showing with confidence and not weird vibes energy.

Do you have to talk on the phone before a first date? Some say yes. Others (hi, it’s me) would rather skip it. In this post, I share a cringeworthy date story, what I’ve learned about meeting in person, and why you get to decide what works for you—phone call, FaceTime, or just keeping it short and sweet in person.

You don’t have to know everything after one date. If you’re not getting a clear “yes” or “no” right away, give yourself permission to stay curious. In this post, I break down how to stop pressuring yourself to have all the answers by the second drink.

Why do we get so excited so fast with someone we’ve just met—and why does it hurt so much when it doesn’t go anywhere? In this post, I break down what feeling that ‘spark’ really is, why it might be keeping you stuck, and how to slow down without losing momentum in dating.

Why do we get so excited so fast with someone we’ve just met—and why does it hurt so much when it doesn’t go anywhere? In this post, I break down what feeling that ‘spark’ really is, why it might be keeping you stuck, and how to slow down without losing momentum in dating.

You’re allowed to decide you’re not interested—after several dates, a few texts, or even just a feeling. Here I’ll show you exactly how to say “no thanks” in dating without guilt, overexplaining, or emotional labor. You don’t need to soften the truth—you just need to be honest and clear.

It’s easy to get excited about someone new—you’ve been chatting for a week or two, he seems nice, and you catch yourself telling friends, “Wish me luck!” But here’s why I think that’s a problem: when you assign hopeful potential too early, you set yourself up for unnecessary disappointment. In this post, I’ll share why dating well isn’t about luck—it’s about trusting yourself, going slow, leading with intention in your dating life.

Dating can feel like a gamble, and it’s tempting to look for ways to guarantee a good outcome. But here’s the truth—there’s no insurance for dating. No amount of checklists, social media polls, or background details will predict whether someone is a great match. Some things you just can’t know until you know them. The real key? Trusting yourself to recognize what works, what doesn’t, and adjusting as you go.

First dates aren’t for kissing. They are for discovering if this is someone you might want to kiss in the future. Learn why holding off on physical intimacy can lead to more meaningful relationships.