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Should you hire a matchmaker?
While a matchmaker can save you the initial hassle of sorting through potential dates, it's essential not to hand over all your dating decisions to a matchmaker. They make introductions, but ultimately, you're the one who knows what kind of connection feels right for you.
Don’t skip ‘dating’ on the way to a relationship
Are you guilty of rushing into relationships without getting to know someone first? One of the biggest mistakes I see women making when dating: Skipping the dating part and going right to a relationship. If you are dating to find a relationship, remember you still need to… date. Slow down and savor the journey of dating.
How would you date differently if you knew your person was coming?
Learn how a mindful approach to dating can transform your journey and lead you to 'The One.' (Hint: You might have to date a lot of ‘Not The Ones’ along the way.)
What reality TV gets wrong about dating
Discover the truth behind TV dating norms and why rushing into relationships may not be the best approach. Dive into the world of Love is Blind and The Bachelor as we explore the pitfalls of making lifelong decisions after just a few weeks of dating. Challenge the notion of instant connections and explore the benefits of slow dating. Don't let rejection on reality TV shows define your worth - you are enough. Ready to embrace a healthier approach to dating? Read on for more…
Have you diversified your dating portfolio?
Are you diversifying your dating experience? As any financial advisor will tell you - you need to have a diversified financial portfolio as you invest for the future. 💰 The same is true with dating! If you are looking to grow into a mutually beneficial relationship with someone and are only using dating apps (and then getting frustrated that they are not 'performing' well) it might be time to rethink how you are investing in your dating life!
Can’t stop thinking about someone?
Are you caught in a loop of thoughts about someone from your past? Whether it's an ex-partner or someone you wished you had dated, ruminating over past relationships can be exhausting and draining. We've all been there, replaying scenarios in our heads, questioning what went wrong, and wondering why things didn't work out. But here's the thing – it's completely normal. You have the power to break free from this cycle. In this blog post, I'm sharing actionable tips to help you stop ruminating and start moving forward. You'll learn how to take control of your mind and find peace amidst the chaos of heartbreak.
Dating doesn’t have to feel exhausting
How many times have you heard or said, “Dating is exhausting!"? I've said it before, but I don't say it much anymore. How come? I figured out that dating doesn't have to be exhausting. (Yaaaayyyy!) If you're feeling exhausted by dating, you might be doing it wrong. Or, at the very least I can show you how to do it differently in way that doesn't feel like so much work.
Reframing rejection
I was ghosted by not one, but TWO different men yesterday! TWO! Here's what I am doing and NOT doing as a result of not hearing back from them…
What I do when I am ghosted
I was ghosted by not one, but TWO different men yesterday! TWO! Here's what I am doing and NOT doing as a result of not hearing back from them…
Did you see the viral list of places women refuse go on a first date?
Have you seen the list that is going viral of places women ‘absolutely refuse’ to go on a first date?! If you think you are a high value woman (you should, because you are), you might think that a man should show you that he thinks you are too by taking you to an interesting or expensive restaurant. But doing that is the opposite of an empowered approach to dating!
Where can I meet men offline?
I see women posting online a lot asking, “I'm tired of dating apps! Where is a good place to meet men?” I am wondering if what they actually mean is, “Where is a good place for men to meet me?” Men are all around us. They are on dating apps, at grocery stores, sporting events, dog parks, etc. But I think what a lot of women are wondering is where can I meet a man who will actually come up to me, rather than having to take the initiative to say hi and break the ice themselves. Here are my top tips!
What do you do when you can’t stop thinking about someone after a breakup?
What do you do when you can't stop thinking about someone? What do you do when you have breakup remorse wondering if you should have made a different decision? I'll tell you what doesn't work: thinking 'I shouldn't be thinking about them' or replaying ‘what if’ scenarios in your mind over and over again.
Try these tips instead.
Why working with a relationship coach is better than dating alone
What happens when you hire me as your dating & relationship coach? 💘 You have access to someone who has done a lot of dating - and coached a lot of people who are dating - and knows all the pitfalls to avoid. I'll point out the common mistakes you are making and how to get out of dating despair faster… and so much more!
My ‘Single plus’ approach to dating
When I was younger and people wanted to set me up with someone, I would always say they had to be “single, plus something else." The something else being some particular reason that this person thought we would be a good fit - not just because we're both single.
One thing that drives me crazy about online dating
One thing that drives me crazy in my online dating experience is this: having to carry the conversation with men. I recently told two men on Hinge that I liked their profiles and would be interested in connecting and chatting. One replied, “Thank you. That's so kind of you.” The other wrote, “Hi Paige!” There was no question back, no inquiry about me, no indication they wanted to have a… conversation. Here’s what I do when this happens…
Why you should try Very Slow Dating
I'm trying something new and want to invite you to try it too. I'm calling it: Very Slow Dating. What is it?! Exactly what the name says. Slowing everything way down. Not rushing in. Not getting overly excited about anyone too quickly. NOT jumping into sex and intimacy (on purpose). This is the approach I have been subtly and not so subtly preaching about for a while. Read on for how I do it…
What does it look like? For me, it has looked this:
Dating doesn’t have to feel ‘weird’
What is it about going on a date or meeting someone new that makes women feel nervous? What makes us question what we're wearing, where we're going, and whether or not the person we're meeting will actually like us?! Why has this become the norm? And what can we do about it? I used to get a little nervous about going on dates too. But then I realized a few things that changed my outlook altogether.
On sex, pleasure and intimacy
Women have been taught conflicting things about sex. We were warned about the dangers of having sex, but also told it’s our job to attract men who want to have it with us. Women are also taught that our desire is only responsive to a man’s. And only by being desired by someone else should women feel sexual arousal of our own. Seeing your body only in service to someone else means many women don’t even know what they like or enjoy. We think we need to find the right partner to take us to the magical place of orgasm, not recognizing we can create the thoughts and feelings of sexual pleasure on our own.
The biggest difference between men and women dating
Here's what I think is the biggest difference between men and women who are dating: Generally speaking, most men are dating for dating. Most women are dating for a relationship. Lots of men who want to ‘get back out there’ and date after divorce or after a long-term relationship ends. This results in a series of short-term relationships and a lot of ‘dating.' Women, on the other hand, are typically dating for a ‘relationship.’ Most women are going on dates and sizing up what kind of long-term potential each person might have. Most women aren't dating just to be ‘dating.’
Are you in a relationship with someone you’re not ‘IN’ a relationship with?
Are you in a 'relationship' with someone you're not IN a relationship with? Are you texting someone regularly about kids and plans and exes, your day, their day, what you're both reading, watching or listening to, sending each other funny memes and articles you think they might be interested in… but you're not actually IN a relationship with this person? If so, why?