Do you find yourself hoping he’ll change? Wishing he’d dress better, text more, or be less messy? You’re not alone, but you are wasting your time. This week’s post is a must-read if you’ve ever dated a man for his potential.

Spoiler: If you don’t actually like him, he is not the one for you!

When dating, it’s easy to fill in the gaps with who you want someone to be instead of seeing them for who they actually are. You ask a few questions, hear what you like, and suddenly your mind starts building a whole story about them. But here’s the truth: you can’t know who someone truly is until they show you. Here’s what to do instead.